make new friends

It's time to open up to someone and share a little heart. Try something new, dip your toe in the water, and put yourself out there. Stuff might get a little weird, but just remember that it'll be worth it. 

make new friends

Adulthood brings with it new opportunities and a slew of awkward things we never prepared for, including making friends. It can be tough to introduce yourself when you feel like other people already have it figured out, or when you're so busy balancing work and sleep and family that it feels like there's never enough time. 

Despite all that, here's the big truth: friendships fill holes you may not even realize are there. Yes, making new friends can seem like a daunting chore, but when you consider all the positivity it can bring, the effort is well worth it.

You have to start by fighting the awkward. 

Meeting new people and trying to think of new conversation topics is agonizing, especially if you're an introvert. But just like anything that's worth doing, an awkward stage is pretty standard. Do you think Chrissy Teigen just skipped the middle school growing pains like high-waters and braces? She turned out juuuust fine in the end. If you think about any solid relationship now, you had to go through the tough parts to get to the good stuff. Push through the discomfort and keep engaging. Small conversations will lead to bigger ones.

And then there's the fact that you're pressed for time. 

As we age, the opportunities and places to meet people grow slimmer. So instead of hoping to make a new friend on the monkey bars, we've got to be a little more proactive. We have to ask for help. Is there anyone in your life who's got a solid group of friends? You could easily let fear stop you and think, "She's got enough friends, she doesn't need me," or you could remind yourself that a person who's good at making friends could certainly help you do the same. What about people at work? Can you have coworkers introduce you to people and activities in your area? Can you go to a networking event with the sole purpose of meeting a potential friend? Consider the places you go every day: is there a way you could meet someone new at drop-off or the gym? Friends aren't just going to fall in our laps. We've got to go find them. 

While we're on the topic of branching out, it may be time to try something new.

Making friends while trying a new activity means putting yourself on the line twice in one night, but it'll be worth it. Have you always wanted to try Zumba? Just imagine the bonding that could occur while you and your potential bestie flounder through eight-count dance sequences. That's the stuff of memories right there! Take an art class, join a committee at work, or volunteer someplace locally. Remind yourself that if you got through sixth grade, you can certainly get through sweating it out on the racketball court. Collecting new experiences with friends builds a super solid foundation.

When it comes to relationships that can stand the test of time, they've got to be based on authenticity. The transition from talking about the weather to talking about heartache can be a tough one to bridge, and of course you don't want to tell someone your entire life story when you first meet, but when you put enough chips on the table to be real, your new friend will never forget about it. Realness is what connects us. It's what helps us believe that we aren't alone and that even though our experiences may be different, people can hold our stuff and help us to feel better about what's true. 

 

It's time to get a little brave, babes. 

It's time to open up to someone and share a little heart. Try something new, dip your toe in the water, and put yourself out there. Stuff might get a little weird, but just remember that it'll be worth it. 


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