5 lies we have to stop accepting

It can feel (and look) like everyone is working their dreams with ease; while you are struggling to find the time, energy, and money to just keep yours afloat. Let me let you in on a little secret—everyone is struggling, or did struggle, or will struggle. It is part of the process.

5 lies we have to stop accepting

I started thinking about this on a particularly long Sunday—one in which the “scaries” were setting in hard—and my husband and I found ourselves still up at 11 PM trying to get all the things done that we said we would that weekend. I was vacuuming the stairs (THE WORST) and he was sweeping the kitchen floors. He came around the corner and said, “It just occurred to me that I’ve just accepted that this broom is annoying and doesn’t work that well; when really, if I just cut off the bottom of these bristles—BOOM! New broom.” I couldn’t help but laugh at his enthusiasm as he cut of the frayed and ragged ends of the broom and continued about his chore with a refreshed perspective and his “brand new” broom.

The point of me telling you this anecdotal story is that it really got me thinking. Where else can we cut the proverbial tatter and start fresh, without starting over? What else are just accepting?

What other lies are we telling ourselves that could be holding us back?


Because you haven’t started yet, you can’t start at all.

You can decide to start at 10:37 AM on a random Wednesday. It doesn’t matter when you start, it just matters that you start. And it doesn’t matter how old you are, how much money you have, or how long you have been putting off the start. Your dreams don’t discriminate or judge. Just. Freaking. Start.

It should be easier, so it must be wrong.

It can feel (and look) like everyone is working their dreams with ease; while you are struggling to find the time, energy, and money to just keep yours afloat. Let me let you in on a little secret—everyone is struggling, or did struggle, or will struggle. It is part of the process.

This lie is particularly dangerous because it can lead to quitting really quickly. Parts of your journey are going to be hard, know that now, so you don’t try to use it as an excuse to throw in the towel down the road. Just because it is hard, doesn’t mean you are on the wrong path.

You can’t change your mind.

Pivot. Pivot. Pivot. Learning when it is time to reevaluate and regroup is so important. You shouldn’t be embarrassed to change your mind about what you want for your life and how you are going to make that happen.

Because it hasn’t happened yet, it won’t ever happen.

Most of the time great things take time and that can be hard. We are very much an instant gratification society but we have to learn to have a little patience. Especially with ourselves. Don’t give up, sister. It’s OK to grow slow.

You can do it on your own.

You can’t. None of us can.

You need a tribe of people to cheer you on, to love on you when you’re in a funk, and to encourage you on those inevitably hard days.

You need people telling you: You can. You will. You deserve it. You are worth it. You are awesome. And what you are pursuing is also awesome. If you need some extra fans, come join us in our Fireside Facebook group!


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