a plea to cut yourself some slack
We can't even begin to live a life with purpose, filled with work and hobbies that fill us up, loving the best we can and nurturing ourselves the way we deserve if we don't recognize when the thing we need the most is a break.
This weekend I found myself curled in a ball with a high fever and body aches totally unable to even begin to pretend that I was tackling much more than brushing my teeth. I knew it was coming too. I'd run myself ragged for the last 6 months, gambling with my body over and over again. To make things worse, I haven't been so hot in the emotional department lately. I've exhausted myself playing tug-of-war with my heart and my brain, and I'm just tired.
This morning I am fighting through the flu-hell, buzzed from DayQuil and coffee, and I want to have something incredibly inspiring to tell you. I want to tell you that my fever nightmares showed me the path to happiness and I can now present the keys to life in 5 simple steps in the post below, but I can't. I am as tired today as I was yesterday. I am as heartbroken today as I was yesterday.
What I do know is this: If you know you need to cut yourself some slack, please do it.
If you are wearing down from life, physically or emotionally, please just pause. Take a breath. Go outside. Call a friend. Take a nap.
We get so caught up in the hustle. We glorify being busy and fill our schedules to the brim with work, passion projects, self-improvement tasks, and chores. We push forward every day proclaiming our strength and power. We are women who can do it all, hear us roar.
But can we really roar if we don't stop to catch our breath? Today, I argue strongly, no, we can't. We can't even begin to live a life with purpose, filled with work and hobbies that fill us up, loving the best we can and nurturing ourselves the way we deserve if we don't recognize when the thing we need the most is a break.
Here are a few ideas to get you started on how you can cut yourself some slack this week. Join me in picking one (or ten) and not letting guilt creep its way in. You not only deserve this, you need this.
- Cut one thing out of your calendar for the week. Reschedule an appointment, take a rain check on a social outing. There's always time to do it again.
- Get the coffee with the stuff you like. Just don't count the calories today, OK?
- Watch Netflix on your lunch break instead of running errands. The post office will be there tomorrow.
- Rock the messy bun. Use the dry shampoo. It's not the end of the world.
- Skip spin class and go for drinks with your girlfriends. Talk about what's really on your mind.
- Close your email. Call your parents.
- Put your phone on airplane mode and go for a walk. Listen to your favorite music or podcasts. Don't you dare check your email.
- Cut some corners on dinner tonight. You don't have to do the Martha Stewart thing evvvvvery day.
- Take a mental health day. You know when you need it. Just take it.
- Send the call to voicemail. You can handle it another time.
- Plan a schedule-free weekend. No plans, no chores, no pants, whatever.
And the thing that might be the hardest, but also the most important...
- Let yourself feel whatever it is you need to feel right now. Stuffing it away doesn't do anyone any favors, especially you.
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